Why is it so hard to say no to our kids? Maybe it isn’t for some people, but it is for me. I have always been such a fucking people pleaser. Until about a month ago, if I created a boundary for my kids, it was coupled with a long drawn-out conversation about why, and …
This piece is written by Gabrielle Kerson, an old dear friend. Since writing my book and beginning this blog, friends send me pieces of writing often. I love the unintended consequence that sharing my writing, attempting to be vulnerable and bring people together, has allowed others to feel safe sharing their thoughts and feelings and …
Imposter syndrome. Do you have it? I do. Or well, I did, I used to, but it’s getting better now. The more I find and claim my worth, the more I feel, internally, that what I have to say matters, and that others take me seriously, too. My voice used to be very small, full …
*** Trigger warning, discussion of rape. Details changed for privacy. She sat in the corner chair in my office. It’s the chair everyone in deepest pain chooses. It feels safe there, with a wall on each side. She didn’t cry. She didn’t smile either, and she didn’t meet my eye. She stared ahead and told …
Friends are family and family are friends “I love you.” The text said. Suddenly the tears welled and spilled, down my face, splashing onto my shirt and jeans. I could wipe the tears from my face but the wet splotches soaking my shirt were a certain giveaway of my big heart, literally on my sleeve, …
How to be Good at Life When you hit the absolute breaking point, what do you do? What I do, and what I want to do, are sometimes very different things. The pressures of parenting and life and generally holding it all together can be too much sometimes. People say, when you are overwhelmed, focus …
Letting Half-Love Leave I noticed when he walked away this time, he didn’t see he was abandoning himself more than he was abandoning me. He didn’t see it but for the first time, I did. In the past I would be distraught and confused, consumed with ache and anxiety and self-loathing at his leaving. I …
A Midnight Rant about Online Dating Can we just call it out that online dating is fucking horseshit? I mean Jesus fuck. Sorry if this is not PC but there are some creepy ass motherfuckers out there. Not to be mean, but honest question: why would you take a close-up picture of your eye, just …
Parenting Teenagers… with Coffee and Dog Shit. I grabbed a coffee and headed for the living room, blissfully unaware of the shit waiting for me there. This was my daily ritual of early morning solace: coffee and quiet on the couch, with a fuzzy blanket and the sunrise. When my kids were younger it was …